CCDG Attorney Donna Buttler on Divorce & Holidays: Collaborative Can Soften the Hardship

Attorney Donna Buttler

In normal circumstances, separating or divorcing families face new and daunting challenges during the holidays. This year is even more complicated. When it comes to divorce and the holiday season, consider how a Collaborative Divorce may be be particularly effective for families, children and the parents who may be alone.

“Thinking about not being with your children over the holidays can be devastating to some people, and, frankly, can become the embodiment of the sadness and betrayal that may be present in the divorce. The Collaborative Divorce process enables the separating or divorcing parties to discuss these feelings in a constructive way and to make distinct arrangements that work for their family that may soften the hardship. Recognizing one another’s emotions in itself can help the parties cope. Eliminating misunderstandings can improve the overall post-divorce relationship within the family. The stress of the current pandemic environment heightens distrust and concern, so constructive discussions are that much more beneficial to relationships — particularly if there are disagreements over aspects such as the size of the celebration and the activities that will be enjoyed.”